NLP For Seduction in Relationship

Do you know what’s the best part of Neuro Language Programming? It can be used in every aspect of your life – even when it comes to love and dating!

Yes, there’s a thing called NLP seduction that’s here to help you navigate the tricky world of dating by boosting your self-esteem and making you understand better the body language of the person you’re looking to impress.

NLP seduction consists of a few different techniques that might come in handy the next time you meet someone new. As with other NLP techniques, the ultimate goal is to help you look more approachable and more attractive to the person you’re trying to impress.

With just a little bit of practice, no matter whether you’ll be consciously choosing your words or hoping to come off as more attractive, you’re bound to see some positive changes.

Keep reading on to get a glimpse into NLP seduction techniques and see how does your love life improves!


Some have called NLP seduction brainwashing – and it’s completely natural to have some concerns about the methods we’ll be presenting you here. However, neither hypnosis therapy nor NLP seduction is a brainwashing method.

In fact, NLP and hypnosis aren’t even the same things!

NLP techniques can be implemented in a variety of different ways, all the way from helping you deal with anxiety to showing you how to grow your business and boost sales!

Most of the time, you’re using the techniques to aid your own personal development and become better at reading other people’s non-verbal clues.


Be aware of the time & place in which you’re trying to seduce

As a general rule, both women and men don’t like to be interrupted while going about their daily lives. Think about it. Even you wouldn’t chat with a stranger when you barely had the time to gulp down your lunch before heading back to the office.

The best time to approach someone is when they’re relaxed. For example, is that lady sitting over there for a while now, slowly sipping her coffee? You may have a shot with her now!

Also, be mindful of where you meet new people. If you’re looking for something more sustainable in a relationship, nightclubs are probably not the best idea. People don’t really expect to meet the love of their life there.

Pro tip: having your friends introduce you to their friends is a great way to meet someone new!

Be mindful of your approach

There’s nothing worse than being pushy. There’s a fine line between having the right dose of confidence or being rude.

The best way to decide whether you’re too pushy or not is to read non-verbal clues.

Read their body language – are they leaning towards you? Or do they sit with their arms crossed?

Also, pay attention to their facial expressions. There are hundreds of micro expressions that might show you whether you’re doing a good job.

Build trust with NLP seduction techniques

Do you know that building trust may be the most important step here?

It’s simple – we’ve all been told to never talk to strangers. Whenever a stranger tries to approach you, it only comes naturally that you’re suspicious of their motives.

There might be a few ways for you to influence the amount of time it takes for the other side to see you as trustworthy.


The rules of mirroring are simple. You do whatever the other side is doing to come off as friendlier, more approachable.

For example, if they touch their cheek, you do the same. When they touch their arm next, you touch yours.

Be careful though. If done poorly, it’s easy to notice someone’s imitating your every move.

To avoid getting caught, try doing it with a few seconds delay or doing it every other move. For instance, touch your cheek but skip touching your arm next.

Say what the other side wants to hear

There isn’t a better way to charm someone rather than being a good listener. After all, every single person on the planet wants to be heard, right?

Now, this doesn’t mean that you should tell lies – that only works in the short run. It means you should take clues as to where the other side wants to take the conversation.

To start with, actively listen to what the other side has to say. Guide the conversation so they get to talk about what they want. Make it about them – not about you.

For example, have they mentioned their job more than a few times? Then they may want to talk about their job more – don’t shy away from asking questions!

Implanted commands

Implanted commands might be a pretty good technique to use when you’re inviting someone out.

In regular circumstances, most people say: Will you meet me out for dinner?

That sentence gives the other side the option to choose whether they want to meet you for dinner or not.

But if using the NLP seduction technique, you say: Meet me out for dinner? thus eliminating the option of choice for the other side.

Emotional anchors

You probably know by now that anchoring is a powerful way to be transferred into a completely different emotional state.

Your goal here is to introduce the other side to an emotional anchor that will remind them of you in the future.

It can be a napkin with your phone number on it. A flower with a specific smell – anything. The human sense of smell is so powerful, it’s very likely that lady will always be reminded of you whenever she smells it in the future!

We have compiled a list of Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) relating to Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)

What is NLP?

In simple terms, Neuro Linguistic programming (NLP) is a series of models, techniques and strategies to help us better understand how the language we use influences the way we think and the results we get!

How can I benefit from using NLP?

NLP can have a positive effect on every aspect of your life. It can be used to move forward with some specific challenge or issue, or can be adopted more generically to make a difference to all areas of your life.

ANLP has many case studies and success stories detailing how NLP has helped clients, organisations and educational establishments with specific challenges over the years.

How does NLP work?

Have you ever done something so elegantly and effectively that it took your breath away? Have you had times where you were delighted at what you did and wondered how you did it?

NLP shows you how to understand and model your own successes, so that you can reproduce them. It is a way of discovering and unfolding your personal genius, a way of bringing out the best in yourself and others.

NLP is the study of excellence. It is the study of both the conscious and unconscious processes that combine to enable people to do what they do. The key to success is often unknown at a conscious level. Using NLP, you can elicit these unknown pieces.

You may want to improve your relationships, or eliminate an anxiety, or become more competitive in the market place. The key pieces are not found in the muscles, but in your inner thoughts, like words or pictures, or feelings or even beliefs. Once you know these unknown pieces you can change them. NLP exercises are like thought experiments, mental exercises or a game. The laboratory is your mind.

How did NLP develop?

Neuro-Linguistic Programming was first defined by Dr Richard Bandler (a Mathematician) and John Grinder (an Associate Professor of Linguistics) working together at the University of California, Santa Cruz, in the early 1970s at a time of rapid development in the humanities field.

They asked the important question "What is it that makes the difference between somebody who is merely competent and someone who excels at the same skill?" and decided to model various people in order to discover the answers. It just so happens that the three people they chose to model were the outstanding therapists, Fritz Perls (Gestalt Therapy), Virginia Satir (Family Therapy) and Milton Erickson (world renowned psychiatrist who gave his name to a form of hypnosis). They could just as easily have modelled outstanding businessmen or scientists.

Richard Bandler and John Grinder modelled their language, physiology and mental processes and then identified patterns (rather than theories) which could be explicitly taught. NLP also drew on many existing fields of study including the work of Chomsky in linguistics, of Korsybski in general semantics, Ashby in systems thinking and many, many others.

Do I need an NLP trainer or an NLP professional?

That depends on what you hope to achieve.

If you would like one to one support to achieve a specific goal or deal with a particular challenge in your life, then you may like to consider visiting an NLP professional (a Practitioner or Master Practitioner).

If you would like to learn more about NLP, either for your own personal development or because you are considering a career change or additional career, then you are looking for an NLP trainer. You can then attend some NLP training and become a qualified Practitioner yourself.

How do I choose a good NLP professional?

For starters, make sure any NLP professional you are considering working with belongs to the Professional Body, so you have something to fall back on and they have a self-regulatory framework to base their business upon.

ANLP offers you impartial guidance on choosing either an NLP professional or an NLP trainer and strongly advises that you do your due diligence before engaging their services.

How much does an NLP session cost?

The cost of an NLP session will vary depending on whether you are having a 1-2-1, group or a training session as part of a longer course. Prices will also vary based on the skill and specialization of the Practitioner… a single session may be as little as £50 and a course can be over £3,000.

We recommend you use our ANLP resources to select the right NLP professional for you and that you understand how much you will be charged per session or for the course before you commit.

By searching on our site and using an ANLP Member, you will be assured that the person you select is qualified, as they state on their profile, as either an NLP Practitioner, Master Practitioner, Trainer, or ANLP Accredited Trainer from an ANLP-recognised NLP School.

NOTE: If you are looking for NLP training and to learn NLP as a practitioner, we do NOT recommend that you use online courses to learn NLP as the quality and depth of training offered is, in our professional opinion, not adequate to certify you as an NLP practitioner with ANLP. As the internationally recognized, independent body of NLP Professionals, ANLP does not endorse or recognize ANY online-only NLP courses.

Where do I start?

If you are interested in engaging an NLP professional to support you through a particular issue, then we suggest you start by looking at our guide for choosing a good NLP professional.

If you are wondering if NLP is a good fit for your organization or workplace, then start by reading our guide for using NLP at work.

If you are thinking about training in NLP for yourself, then start by looking at our guide for choosing a good NLP trainer.

If you are curious and want to know a bit more about NLP before diving in, then do have a look at our case studies and recommended book list, both of which can help you to make informed decisions about whether or not NLP is right for you.

Is there any research to prove NLP works?

For many years, there was very little research around NLP. That is changing and there is a growing body of evidence to support the roots of NLP practice and various specific strategies and techniques used within NLP practices.

There is also a growing body of research particularly in the education field, funded by the Education Development Trust (formerly CfBT). We feature their research papers, and others, on our Research Pages.

The first NLP Research Journal was published by NLPEA  in 2009 and was launched at the House of Commons in January 2010.

In the States, the Research and Recognition Project focuses on PTSD and trauma protocols and continues to campaign for funded research into these particular areas.

What about online courses in NLP?

We think online courses, in NLP, such as Udemy, are one of many great ways to discover more about NLP and what it can do for you...

We also strongly believe that if you have more than a passing interest in NLP and want to use it to build your own practice or enhance existing client-led services, it is so important to learn your NLP practice face to face, in a live training environment and dealing with real people.

NLP is an experiential subject and practicing NLP is an essential part of any certification when you want to work with others.

There is a big difference between 'online' courses and 'virtual' courses. Due to the pandemic in 2020, NLPEA's Accreditation panel and advisors explored ways of safely delivering NLP training in a virtual setting, resulting in the ANLP Criteria for Virtual Training. If your NLP Training meets all these live training requirements, you can still apply for membership of NLPEA.

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